November 2013 – Leveraging Thought

Five reasons you’re still single

Those of you who follow my articles know that I’m a big believer in getting to the root energy cause of any issue or problem. What do I mean by that? I mean that while an issue can be addressed in any number of ways, and creating a list of action steps you can take to help solve a problem is useful, the action steps don’t always get to the heart of the problem (or clear the energy blocks that are preventing a real shift). For example, many of my coaching clients (especially women) comment to me that they are having a hard time meeting their soulmate. The advice that they get from others (including self-proclaimed “dating coaches”) are things like: “get out there and meet more people!,” “lose some weight and improve your appearance!,” or even, “don’t be so picky!” While there is absolutely nothing wrong with any of that advice, it doesn’t really get at some very fundamental questions you need to be asking yourself in order to attract the right person. Unless you dig a bit deeper and try to sort out what’s going on with your energy vibration (remember you are attracting all situations and people to you, based on the energy vibration you are putting out into the Universe). This is why some people effortlessly run into their perfect soul mate when they are not even really looking, while others can’t seem to find the right person regardless of how hard they try, how many dating websites they’re on, how great they look, or how much money they have. It’s not the action steps you’re doing; it’s a state of being. You have to shift the energy you’re putting out [...]

Dealing With Online Haters

With more of the world creating and consuming information on the internet, online behavior, etiquette, and the rules of engagement are becoming increasingly complex. Basically, online etiquette is virtually nonexistent. Sitting behind an anonymous computer screen, with an anonymous screen name, many people feel empowered to say things in comment boxes, chat rooms and on boards that would never say in real life. In some ways, this creates open, honest, unfiltered dialogue. On the flip side, it really brings out the dark side of people where they unleash all their frustration, anger, and even boredom through their keyboards. So what to do if you’re an online writer, blogger, tweeter, or anyone who puts any sort of content out there that people can read and comment on? These are my top tips for surviving and navigating through the world of online haters: 1. Don’t take it personally. This seems like an obvious one, but it’s good to remind yourself that the people that are writing nasty or negative comments probably don’t know you in real life. They have not put as much thought and effort into their words as you probably have into yours, and aren’t as invested in what they’re saying and how it might be hurting you. Most people just have a knee-jerk reaction, comment on the first thing that comes to mind and move on. Also remember that some of these people are bored, and it’s much easier for them to tear someone else down than to do something constructive themselves. So keep a cool head, your emotions in check, resist the urge to respond, and move on. 2. Know what you’re getting yourself into. When you voluntarily post your work, writing, or [...]