You Have To Believe It To See It

As we near the end of 2013, many of us will naturally reflect on the past year.  It’s easy to focus on the big things, either positive or negative, that happened (or didn’t happen).  Once a big promotion or dream job has manifested, it takes very little mental discipline to be excited or happy- it’s easy to feel joy about something great once it’s right in front of you.  Most people, even the negative and cynical among us, can smile when they see a cute baby or a rainbow.  Similarly, our mind will naturally lament and feel regret over all our unfulfilled desires and dreams (“Another New Year’s Eve and I’m still single!” or “Still need to lose those 20 pounds!” are common complaints that I hear this time of the year, and that give people a license to feel sad).  While I think it’s sometimes helpful to take inventory of what worked and what didn’t this year, simply observing “what is” in your life is not what deliberate creation is all about.  If you follow my writing, you know that I always stress that the only way to create the life of your dreams is from the inside out.  What does this mean?  My favorite analogy is that of the mirror.  When you look in a mirror, you intuitively understand that the mirror is simply a reflection of who you are and what you are projecting. If you smile, the mirror automatically smiles.  If you frown, it reflects a frowning image back.  The mirror does not have its own agenda and does not have the ability to reflect back to you anything you are not already putting out there!  Pretty easy to understand so [...]

By |December 22nd, 2013|Abundance, Articles, Happiness, Inspiration, Relationships|2 Comments

The Toxic Effect of Guilt

I often use my daily meditation practice as a way to surface any underlying negative emotions and clear any resistance that may be holding my energy vibration down.  The analogy I like to use:  you are naturally like a cork bobbing on the surface of the water – you don’t have to do much to keep the cork floating happily along, because that is its inherent nature.  Negative thoughts and emotions, however, act like a hand that’s holding down the cork.  If you simply release the negative emotion, the cork (and your vibrational frequency) will naturally rise back to your true nature – a state of joy, enthusiasm, and love.  Any emotional state other than this is not only unnatural, but research shows that chronic negative emotion and stress is toxic to our cells and hazardous to our health. So being acutely aware of negative emotion is the first step to recognizing and releasing it.  For this article, I want to focus on a particularly insidious emotion - guilt.  Guilt is one of those tricky emotions that’s hard to pinpoint and even harder to root out.  In its broadest definition, guilt is “an emotion that occurs when a person believes that they have compromised his or her own standards.”  But I’d argue that that definition is not nearly subtle enough for the type of guilt that most people experience (especially women, who in my experience are more prone to obsess and fret than men). For instance, most people might feel guilty about big offenses like stealing, cheating, or lying.  Negative emotion is not always a bad thing if it helps you identify your moral compass and course correct – it’s called having a conscience.  But [...]

By |December 6th, 2013|Articles, Happiness, Health, Inspiration, Relationships|2 Comments

Spiritual Solutions For the Workplace

We’ve all been in difficult interpersonal situations, be it in our personal or professional lives.  Unlike conflict with a friend, relative, or spouse, the rules for conflict resolution in a corporate environment can often be far more complex and confusing.  Being honest, sharing feelings, and coming to a place of mutual compromise are definitely some of my go to techniques in a personal setting. But when the playing field isn’t level, and issues like hierarchies, power struggles, political maneuvering, and passive-aggressive behavior are thrown into the mix, a workplace conflict can often times go unresolved, leaving either one party or both feeling resentful and misunderstood. So what are some of the most effective spiritual solutions for navigating through workplace woes? 1.       Always act from a space of positive energy.  What does this mean?  Often times, when you’re caught up in chaos or conflict of an unfair situation, it’s easy to become reactive and defensive.  When you react from an energetic place of anxiety, anger, vulnerability, or powerlessness, your actions then continue to perpetuate that low vibration and the results are fruitless at best or further damaging at worst.  You HAVE to focus on shifting the energy dynamic first, before acting.  This means focusing on the emotional and mental state that you want to come from (even if you don’t necessarily feel that way in the moment).  What kind of emotional space do you want to project?  Confident, reasonable, team-oriented, and calm.  Taking the time to get into this space, mentally and emotionally, before writing that next email or entering the next meeting, helps diffuse negative energy from a co-worker (because you’re no longer at his or her level), and puts you in a position of [...]

By |December 3rd, 2013|Articles, Career Success, Relationships|0 Comments