5 Life Lessons I’ve Learned From My Daughter

True to all the clichés, becoming a mother really does change your life.  Parenting is challenging and very stressful at times.  Despite the 4 am wake up calls, midnight diaper changes, food spills, and the occasional public meltdown, I am blown away by the amount of absolute joy my daughter brings into my life every single day. She, like all babies, is pure, positive energy.  More than just a little baby, she is an eternal soul, pure Consciousness, that’s eager and excited to take on a fresh perspective.  Watching her smile, laugh, and look around this world in wonder not only makes me happy, it raises my own energy, and allows me to experience love and joy on a whole new level.   And at only 9 months, she has already taught me so many important life lessons: 1. She lives in the moment. She doesn’t waste time and emotional energy thinking about what went wrong yesterday, or worrying about what could go wrong tomorrow.  She lives in the present moment.  I may be absentmindedly rolling a grocery cart through the store, while on my phone, annoyed at having to complete another chore.  My daughter, on the other hand, will squeal with delight as we roll past all the brightly colored fruits and vegetables, and will excitedly pick up a lemon or orange to examine it carefully.  She engages with the world and people around her with such focus, energy, and enthusiasm, that even strangers will take notice and come up to talk to her.  By bringing a positive energy to the present moment, she uplifts everyone around her. 2.  She’s authentic. Unlike adults, who have been socially conditioned to suppress negative emotion, be fake and [...]

Are You Spiritual or Religious?

Reader question of the month:  What’s the difference between spirituality and organized religion?  And, can you be spiritual and religious at the same time? Organized religion (whether it be Christianity, Hinduism, Buddhism, Islam, etc) subscribes to a specific set of principles and dogma, derived from texts and religious figures throughout history (most from thousands of years ago).  Some of these religions have evolved throughout history, and have branched out into many different denominations and sects. Organized religion has many positives:  it can serve as a social and cultural foundation for a community or society, inspire hope, and serve as a moral compass for the masses.  Sometimes getting guidance, leadership, and support from a religious community can be uplifting and provide a sense of belonging and security. Spirituality, or the act of being spiritual, is really coming into the understanding of how Consciousness and energy actually works.  Once you understand that everything is basically energy (and we are just Consciousness in physical form), it allows you to view organized religion from a fresh perspective.  You no longer have to rely on texts written thousands of years ago for a different time and people at a different level of consciousness.  Indeed, almost all of those texts and holy books have been re-written at varying points in history for different political and economic motives.  Instead of arguing about which religion is right, which parts of what texts are still accurate, etc, you begin to realize that Truth is HERE and NOW. What do I mean by that?  I mean that when you begin to meditate and go within, you realize you have access RIGHT NOW to infinite intelligence, guidance, and clarity from your very own Inner Being (or [...]

By |September 12th, 2014|Articles, Happiness, Inspiration, Meditation, Spirituality|2 Comments

Is Karma The Same Thing As Law of Attraction?

  Reader question: Can you explain the difference between karmic law and law of attraction?  Are they the same thing?   This is a great question!  The word “karma” has, for better or worse, made it into the popular lexicon.  It’s usually used as a way to explain the doling out of divine justice.  As in, if something bad or unexpected happens to you, maybe it was “karma” (payback from the Universe for something you have done in the past).  Conversely, if something good happens, the same definition of a past good deed is usually used (“I must have good karma!”). To make things even more complicated, the Hindu religion (which is where the Sanskrit word karma originates) claims that there is past life karma.  Your good and bad deeds in a past life could contribute to what you are experiencing in this life.  So is this popular definition of karma accurate?  And how do we reconcile it with the Law of Attraction? To put it simply, the biggest difference between what we know about how energy actually operates through the Law of Attraction and the classical definition of karma is this:  your current point of attraction is a direct result of your energy frequency in THIS moment.  It has nothing to do with a past life or past good or bad deeds in this life.  So does this mean that if you could shift your energy frequency in the now moment, that you would be absolved of any past karma?  Basically, yes.  Every frequency, every outcome, every circumstance already exists in billions of difference vibrational realities simultaneously.  You are simply, in any given moment in time, TUNING IN to a specific frequency and its [...]

By |May 29th, 2014|Articles, Happiness, Inspiration|9 Comments

Why Do We Create Unexpected Obstacles?

Reader Question:  What is the best way to deal with an unexpected obstacle?  Why do unexpected things seem to happen out of the blue?  - R.S., Canada This is actually a great question, and something I’ve been meaning to write an article about for some time.  If we accept and truly believe that everything that comes into our experience is a result of our vibrational output in that moment (the energy frequency we are radiating out), then how can we explain events that seemingly come “out of the blue?”  While the reader above didn’t give a specific example, I can relate to this question myself, as there are many times in my own life when I feel like the unexpected happens- and this is coming from someone that is pretty mindful of her thoughts on a daily basis!  Also, I want to clarify that by unexpected, I don’t always mean negative.  For example, sometimes I’ll find myself dreading a meeting with someone or an event, and it turns out much better than what I was expecting.  Other times, I’m feeling pretty positive and excited about an opportunity and it turns out to be disappointing or not meeting my expectations (for whatever reason).  So, if we get what we think about and what we expect in accordance with our beliefs, how are the above scenarios possible? In cases where the outcome or manifestation seems incongruous with your beliefs and expectations, there are probably a few things going on that might be worth considering: 1.       Are you truly in sync with your emotions?  Sometimes, people have been at a vibrational set point for so long, it doesn’t even register to them as negative emotion anymore.  For example, [...]

By |February 9th, 2014|Articles, Happiness, Inspiration|2 Comments

You Have To Believe It To See It

As we near the end of 2013, many of us will naturally reflect on the past year.  It’s easy to focus on the big things, either positive or negative, that happened (or didn’t happen).  Once a big promotion or dream job has manifested, it takes very little mental discipline to be excited or happy- it’s easy to feel joy about something great once it’s right in front of you.  Most people, even the negative and cynical among us, can smile when they see a cute baby or a rainbow.  Similarly, our mind will naturally lament and feel regret over all our unfulfilled desires and dreams (“Another New Year’s Eve and I’m still single!” or “Still need to lose those 20 pounds!” are common complaints that I hear this time of the year, and that give people a license to feel sad).  While I think it’s sometimes helpful to take inventory of what worked and what didn’t this year, simply observing “what is” in your life is not what deliberate creation is all about.  If you follow my writing, you know that I always stress that the only way to create the life of your dreams is from the inside out.  What does this mean?  My favorite analogy is that of the mirror.  When you look in a mirror, you intuitively understand that the mirror is simply a reflection of who you are and what you are projecting. If you smile, the mirror automatically smiles.  If you frown, it reflects a frowning image back.  The mirror does not have its own agenda and does not have the ability to reflect back to you anything you are not already putting out there!  Pretty easy to understand so [...]

By |December 22nd, 2013|Abundance, Articles, Happiness, Inspiration, Relationships|2 Comments

The Toxic Effect of Guilt

I often use my daily meditation practice as a way to surface any underlying negative emotions and clear any resistance that may be holding my energy vibration down.  The analogy I like to use:  you are naturally like a cork bobbing on the surface of the water – you don’t have to do much to keep the cork floating happily along, because that is its inherent nature.  Negative thoughts and emotions, however, act like a hand that’s holding down the cork.  If you simply release the negative emotion, the cork (and your vibrational frequency) will naturally rise back to your true nature – a state of joy, enthusiasm, and love.  Any emotional state other than this is not only unnatural, but research shows that chronic negative emotion and stress is toxic to our cells and hazardous to our health. So being acutely aware of negative emotion is the first step to recognizing and releasing it.  For this article, I want to focus on a particularly insidious emotion - guilt.  Guilt is one of those tricky emotions that’s hard to pinpoint and even harder to root out.  In its broadest definition, guilt is “an emotion that occurs when a person believes that they have compromised his or her own standards.”  But I’d argue that that definition is not nearly subtle enough for the type of guilt that most people experience (especially women, who in my experience are more prone to obsess and fret than men). For instance, most people might feel guilty about big offenses like stealing, cheating, or lying.  Negative emotion is not always a bad thing if it helps you identify your moral compass and course correct – it’s called having a conscience.  But [...]

By |December 6th, 2013|Articles, Happiness, Health, Inspiration, Relationships|2 Comments

Five reasons you’re still single

Those of you who follow my articles know that I’m a big believer in getting to the root energy cause of any issue or problem.  What do I mean by that?  I mean that while an issue can be addressed in any number of ways, and creating a list of action steps you can take to help solve a problem is useful, the action steps don’t always get to the heart of the problem (or clear the energy blocks that are preventing a real shift). For example, many of my coaching clients (especially women) comment to me that they are having a hard time meeting their soulmate.  The advice that they get from others (including self-proclaimed “dating coaches”) are things like: “get out there and meet more people!,” “lose some weight and improve your appearance!,” or even, “don’t be so picky!”  While there is absolutely nothing wrong with any of that advice, it doesn’t really get at some very fundamental questions you need to be asking yourself in order to attract the right person.  Unless you dig a bit deeper and try to sort out what’s going on with your energy vibration (remember you are attracting all situations and people to you, based on the energy vibration you are putting out into the Universe).  This is why some people effortlessly run into their perfect soul mate when they are not even really looking, while others can’t seem to find the right person regardless of how hard they try, how many dating websites they’re on, how great they look, or how much money they have.  It’s not the action steps you’re doing; it’s a state of being.  You have to shift the energy you’re putting out [...]

By |November 22nd, 2013|Articles, Happiness, Relationships|0 Comments

Why Loving Yourself Is So Critical

I know it may sound selfish, but throughout my years of coaching people and writing on spirituality, I’ve learned that perhaps the single most important key to success in every area of life (career, relationships, health, you name it) is self-love.What do I mean by self-love?Not arrogance.Not ego.Not an outward bravado.But a calm, inner confidence and belief in one’s own goodness and deservingness.People that fundamentally have the ability to love and accept themselves unconditionally tend to find peace, happiness, and success with much more ease than people that have low self-esteem and a negative self view. And even those of us that are generally content with ourselves could use some lessons in self-appreciation now and again.Here are my top 5 tips to begin loving yourself more: 1.Appreciate some aspect of your body.Our bodies can easily become a focus of insecurity or negativity.No matter you look like or think you look like, there is something about your body that is working really well.Your heart and lungs are working in perfect harmony to keep the oxygen flowing to trillions of cells 24/7- without you even having to think twice about it.Your brain and fingers can work at lightning speed so you can type out hundreds of words with little effort.Do you know how many trillions of brain cells have to be firing in a coordinated fashion for this to even be possible?Trust me, your body is profoundly complex, wise, and intuitive.It’s easy take it for granted, or worse, feel negative towards your body for the 10 extra pounds it’s holding on to or your less than perfect nose.The more you focus and appreciate on all the amazing things your body does for you every single day, the [...]

By |July 5th, 2013|Happiness, Relationships|0 Comments

Why National Politics Are Largely Irrelevant To Your Personal Reality

In this year of political frenzy, a seemingly endless election cycle, and dogmatic opinions on both sides of the political aisle, I’m going to make a bold assertion: what happens in the political world will be largely irrelevant to your personal reality. There. I said it. I know it’s almost blasphemy; we are taught that being politically involved is our civic duty. That what happens in Washington affects all of us. That this country is doomed if (fill-in-the-blank with the party you’ve decided is evil) takes control. And finally, that it is simple common sense to make sure that that the particular party that doesn’t represent our self-interest is stopped. I don’t disagree with some of these premises. Obviously, policies on healthcare, the economy, energy, and the environment do affect our daily lives on some level. I also think in order for a democracy to work (or, rather, a Republic, which is what the United States is), we must make our individual and collective voices heard. But with those objections preemptively addressed, I’d like you to consider whether or not a Democrat or Republican in the White House is really going to dramatically alter your daily reality. Have you ever seen a billionaire become poor because a Democrat is now in power? Sorry to break it to some of you, but people that are successful and know how to attract wealth on a personal level will just continue to do so. They will find creative outlets, lucrative business deals, cultivate meaningful relationships, execute on ideas, and utilize the best accountants and lawyers just as they did before. Sure, they may be taxed more or be faced with greater regulations, but their individual point of attraction [...]

By |April 25th, 2012|Abundance, Happiness|0 Comments

How Do I Find My Soulmate?

Question: Ever since I read The Secret two years ago, I’ve been using Law of Attraction to find my soulmate.  I try to stay positive and focus on what I want, but it’s not working.  What am I doing wrong?” Dr. Kulkarni’s Answer: I get this question a lot.  Often times, when people think they are “focusing on what they want” they are actually vibrationally activating the lack of it.  It’s like someone saying over and over to the Universe – “I want a million dollars!  I want a million dollars!  Soon Law of Attraction will work and I will have a million dollars!”  This doesn’t really work because someone who actually has a million dollars doesn’t yearn for it – they already come from a secure knowing place of abundance and a feeling place of inherent worthiness. When you focus on attracting a partner, the energy pattern you are relaying to the Universe (to put it into words) is – “Universe, I’m going to be positive so that you will give me this thing that I know I currently do not have.”  So the Universe continues to replicate the experience of your knowing that you do not have it, despite your most positive intentions. You have to vibrationally shift into a place of KNOWING and BELIEVING that you are your own soulmate.  That you are already complete and worthy as is.  That there is nothing and no one missing.  When you don’t feel like anything is missing (and therefore are not asking for anyone to fill the gap), what you want will appear swiftly and readily through the path of least resistance.

By |April 6th, 2012|Happiness, Relationships|0 Comments