Reader Question: What is the best way to deal with an unexpected obstacle? Why do unexpected things seem to happen out of the blue? – R.S., Canada
This is actually a great question, and something I’ve been meaning to write an article about for some time. If we accept and truly believe that everything that comes into our experience is a result of our vibrational output in that moment (the energy frequency we are radiating out), then how can we explain events that seemingly come “out of the blue?” While the reader above didn’t give a specific example, I can relate to this question myself, as there are many times in my own life when I feel like the unexpected happens- and this is coming from someone that is pretty mindful of her thoughts on a daily basis! Also, I want to clarify that by unexpected, I don’t always mean negative. For example, sometimes I’ll find myself dreading a meeting with someone or an event, and it turns out much better than what I was expecting. Other times, I’m feeling pretty positive and excited about an opportunity and it turns out to be disappointing or not meeting my expectations (for whatever reason). So, if we get what we think about and what we expect in accordance with our beliefs, how are the above scenarios possible?
In cases where the outcome or manifestation seems incongruous with your beliefs and expectations, there are probably a few things going on that might be worth considering:
1. Are you truly in sync with your emotions?
Sometimes, people have been at a vibrational set point for so long, it doesn’t even register to them as negative emotion anymore. For example, if you are a chronically irritated or grumpy person, it may not even register as abnormal to you, and you may not understand why you attracted that rude person on your commute to work. As far as you’re concerned, you were just in your usual state of mind trying to get somewhere. Then suddenly, out of the blue, someone cuts you off in traffic. And you ask yourself, why did that just happen? I wasn’t thinking about a rude person. And I wasn’t being rude to anyone else. You then brush it off as a coincidence and blame the other driver. But yet, the Universe is always a fair friend, and is unerringly precise in what it’s delivering to you in every given moment. If your chronic set point is irritated, or you have an underlying, low grade anger, irritability, or impatience going on somewhere in your vibration, the Universe is still responding to that whether you are consciously recognizing it or not. Of course, the more intense the emotion, the greater the vibration, and the stronger the manifestation. But even low lying, chronic negative emotion will manifest in some way, shape, or form over time. So when something seemingly negative happens, check yourself for the extent of ALL the emotions going on within you in that moment – whether they seem related to what manifested or not. Sometimes, it just takes a little bit of conscious vibrational tweaking to clear out some negative underlying thoughts or emotional patterning that can be introducing negativity into your life.
2. Are you aware of your underlying belief systems?
In addition to becoming more sensitive to your emotions, you have to begin to recognize and root out underlying negative or dysfunctional belief patterns that might be engrained in your psyche. These don’t necessary have to be what I call “big” or “important” beliefs. They can also be small programs that are running frequently. To continue with the prior example, let’s say a friend is talking to you about how road rage is becoming a bigger problem and she just can’t believe how many angry, crazy drivers there are out there. You agree with her, recounting a recent example you’ve witnessed yourself and shake your head in disgust. While that conversation might seem innocuous to you, or you justify it by saying “But, it’s true!” it is still activating a negative vibration within you. Now, let’s say a few weeks or months go by and you forget all about the conversation with your friend, and you are driving to work on a morning when you’re already feeling irritated, a bit anxious, and impatient- suddenly, another (probably angry and impatient) driver cuts you off! See? No coincidence. Just the Law of Attraction perfectly synchronizing all your emotions and beliefs systems for you.
3. The Universe is responding with the path of least resistance to what you truly want.
Finally, once you’ve examined your emotions and underlying beliefs, remember that the Universe has access to both your past and your future (in a way that the conscious mind does not), and is always delivering to you what your truly want in a way that might not be obvious to you in the moment. For example, you don’t get a job that you really thought you wanted and interviewed well for. While you may not understand why, the Universe (your Higher Self) understands what you really desire from the perfect job, didn’t see this particular position as a vibrational match, and is lining up a better opportunity for you. Placing your trust in infinite intelligence and letting go, knowing that everything is always working out for you (if you will allow it), is an important part of the process.
Remember, you are always getting not what you want, but what you are a vibrational match to! By examining your emotions, belief systems, and learning to let go of resistance and allow, you can learn how to consciously shape your reality and avoid what may seem like the “unexpected.”